You know how that Billie Eilish song goes? “I’m in love…with my future”? God, am I feeling that, every lyric of it. And not because I’ve been giving it a listen recently (in fact I haven’t played it in months). No, it’s because I’ve been … Continue readingDare I Fall in Love with My Future?
I’m 29 and I’ve never had a girlfriend…or have I? After all, I vividly remember when my best friend (who recently moved away, but we spent four years together) was referred to as “your girlfriend” by an old lady who worked at a dance party … Continue readingMy Girlfriend, Unbeknownst To Me
In the cursed online “body count” discourse people often seem horrified or at least concerned by how many sex partners people have before marriage, particularly the less-committal sort of trysts. But really, what strikes me is how little action both the average man and the … Continue readingCounting Bodies
It strikes me that most people in love, sex, romance, and family formation choose much the same path they do in investing: putting all their eggs into the medium-risk medium-reward basket. What if that was the very worst strategy you could possibly choose? What if … Continue readingAntifragility in Love and Life
Many more women who earn enough on their own to provide well for a child should become “single mothers by choice”. To most people that sounds crazy at best, morally outrageous at worst. Yes, ideally every child would be raised by both a loving father … Continue readingOf Single Mothers by Choice
I don’t currently make it my all-consuming priority in life by any stretch of the imagination, but I would like someday to find a true love and have a lot of children with her. She’d have to be highly intelligent, sweet, cute, charming, classy, youthful, … Continue readingMy Dream Relationship